It’s unnatural to bury your child.

I just spent the afternoon having lunch with a lady who had lost her daughter 9 years ago. The pain that she carries with her is hard to see. I went with her to visit her grave, which she does every day. She took the rose petals that she keeps in her fridge and asked me to scatter a few petals for her. Her house was a shrine to her daughter, her room kept exactly the way it was 9 years ago. Pictures of her daughter were all over the walls and the counters. It was sad to see the pain that she carries around with her all the time and the tears that trickled. I messaged her to thank her and she said that she was sorry if her tears made me feel uncomfortable, but this is part of her life now. I have never seen so much pain in a person’s eyes before. Even after 9 years, her grief is so raw and visible.

My heart goes out to her and to all of those who have lost a child.

It makes you realise just how precious life is.

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