Is There Really Such A Thing As A Positive Narcissist?

Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump gestures and declares “You’re fired!” at a rally in Manchester, New Hampshire, June 17, 2015. REUTERS/Dominick Reuter TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY – RTX1GZCO

I read an interesting article about “positive” narcissism and how narcissists can be charismatic, compelling and inspiring – all great traits of a leader. With Trump, a clear textbook narcissist running for presidential candidacy, the question of whether this would really be a good move is very pertinent.

Yes, narcissists can be compelling, exceptional at inspiring people and highly successful people. They have a relentless drive to succeed. But what are their motives? Do we really want people who are highly manipulative, ruthless and with no remorse or empathy leading us? The question here, in essence, is what counts – the outcome or the character of the leader?

A friend of mine is friends with a guy who is a clear narcissist. I once asked him why, when he knows that this guy treats people very badly and lashes out without reason, is he friends with him?  His response, “I know he does a lot of questionable things, but he treats me fine.” I shared my viewpoint with him, that it’s very important to me that my friends are good people. I feel that the same applies here: I would feel much more at ease if the USA was run by a person with pure intentions and good character.

What are the consequences of being led by a narcissist? As someone who has (unfortunately) had the misfortune of encountering one, they are extremely manipulative and have the ability to wreak havoc.  They are unpredictable, ruthless, vindictive, shallow and remorseless, with no ability to feel any form of empathy. They have no feelings other than rage and anger, with all other feelings being mimicked.  They are essentially con men, making you fall for their charm with their lies.

Should someone like that really be elected?

I shudder to think.